Return to Self-Love: Rediscover Unconditional Self-Acceptance

A woman is pictured in an outdoor urban area, with her arms in a self embrace.

Returning to self-love can be a challenging journey, but it is a necessary one. As children, we loved ourselves unconditionally, but as we grew older, we became more aware of our surroundings and the opinions of others. We began to change ourselves to fit into societal norms and to please those around us, leading to a loss of our authentic selves.

The Impact of Upbringing and Pressure to Fit In

One significant factor that contributes to this loss of self-love is our upbringing. As children, we often received rewards or punishments based on our behavior, leading us to believe that our worth is tied to our actions. This conditioning can cause us to prioritize the opinions of others over our own feelings and desires, leading to a disconnection from our true selves.

Another factor is the pressure to fit in with our peers. We may have tried to conform to their expectations, even if it meant suppressing our individuality. This constant need for validation from others can cause us to lose sight of who we truly are, leading to a negative self-image and low self-esteem.

Identifying and Questioning Negative Beliefs

It’s important to recognize these factors and identify the ways in which we may have internalized negative beliefs about ourselves. For example, if someone told you that you weren’t good at something, you may have begun to believe that about yourself, even if it’s not true.

To return to self-love, we must first become aware of these negative beliefs and question their validity. It’s important to separate our true selves from the candy coating we’ve created to please others. We must learn to accept ourselves, quirks and all, and recognize that our worth is not tied to our actions or the opinions of others.

It’s also important to silence the negative self-talk that may have been playing in our heads for years. We must learn to recognize when that bully voice is taking over and replace it with supportive thoughts. For example, if you’re afraid to sing because someone told you that you weren’t good at it, remind yourself that your natural voice is unique and beautiful and that it’s okay to have your own style and voice.

Practicing Self-Compassion and Seeking Professional Support

Returning to self-love is a process that requires patience and self-compassion. It’s important to surround ourselves with supportive people who will encourage us on this journey. Seeking professional help from a therapist or coach can also be beneficial in identifying and addressing negative thought patterns.

In conclusion, returning to self-love requires us to let go of the conditioning and negative beliefs that have been holding us back. It’s about rediscovering our true selves and learning to love and accept ourselves for who we are, not what someone else may have said about us. Remember, you are worthy and deserving of love, and I am here to support you on your journey.